(Sing) "Tum-Tum-Ta-Tum"...39 Years Later

Yesterday we celebrated 39 years of marriage... Family came over.  They showered us with flowers and cards.  We ate Tri-tip and BBQ Chicken.  Gary stayed in bed until everyone arrived at 5:00, so he'd be well rested for the evening and hopefully connect to the goings-on.  On the special days...it's easy to give in to pity parties, wishing things were different, but making a new memory is great medicine for me on Birthdays, Anniversaries, Christmas.  One thing I've learned over the last 7 years is that it is really important for ME to celebrate things REGARDLESS of Gary's ability to respond.  If he IS taking in his surroundings, then that's even better.

So, we had a party.  Gary opened his eyes once or twice during dinner while he munched his Steak, and Garlic Potatoes, but for the most part, he remained non-communicative.  Right after dinner we settled in by the TV so I could show everyone Gary's present from me.  I made him a DVD with the audio of our wedding with photos.  During the hours I spent putting together the video, editing the photos, and listening to the ceremony,  I was surprised by the effect it had on me. I was so happy, listening  to Gary repeating his vows.  I miss hearing his voice now.  I cried as I listened to the challenges laid out by our Pastor,  to love unselfishly no matter what.  I am faced with that choice every day.  My heart was flooded with gratefulness for 39 years.   Gary gave a gift to me last night too.  Toward the end of the video, he opened his eyes and watched for a few minutes, and even made some sounds, trying to speak.

Pastor Travaille prayed this poem for us.  God has truly answered this prayer for Gary and I. 

Oh Perfect Love

All human thought transcending

Lowly we bow in prayer before Thy throne

That theirs may be a love that knows no ending

Whom Thou forevermore doest join in one.

 

O Perfect Life

Be Thou their full assurance

Of tender charity and steadfast faith

Of quiet hope and gentle, brave endurance

With childlike trust that fears not pain nor death.

 

Grant them the joy that brightens earthly sorrow.

Grant them the peace that calms all earthly strife.

And may they ever know a faith in Christ as Savior

That dawns upon eternal love and life.

Through Jesus Christ our LORD

Amen

Dating - 1974

 Anniversary Celebration - 2013

Lots of people ask me "How do you do it?"  "How do you stay joyful?"  Let me say that there's nothing special about Gary and I.  We made a promise to God, in 1974 in front of each other.  We prayed for God's strength and blessing, and we meant it.  We didn't know that I would get cancer, and then that Gary would get Alzheimer's, but we knew that no matter what, God would expect us to keep our vows.   And you know what?  He's the one that has made it happen.  Gary and I are just sinners, saved by God's grace.  My joy is not natural.  It's from Jesus' love for me, and the fact that we are just passing through this life.  Our marriage was grounded in that love.  I posted the wedding DVD I made for Gary if you want to watch the photos and listen to the ceremony.  Hopefully it will encourage you.  The music sound is distorted, but you can hear Pastor T, and us just fine.  It's 28 minutes long.  At the end is a doodle type note Gary wrote me just for fun. 

Snowflakes and Me

Me and Snowflakes....we go way back.  Badger Pass at Yosemite sometime around 1956.  I still remember the big 3-D snowflakes on the front of the lodge. 

Here in Southern California the forecast for today is: 73 deg.  Wishing we had a bit more of a typical winter here, I got to thinking about colder Christmases.  My dad and I were recently reminiscing about the coldest skiing experience we could remember and we agreed that it was at Bridger Bowl, Montana.  He was in his 80's at the time.  We were riding the lift together and absolutely miserable.  The wind was blowing right through our ski clothes.  I don't remember my dad ever being cold.  Growing up, he always tried to make my brother and I feel warm, and never complained about being cold himself.  He used to let me put my hands on his coffee cup in the lodge to warm them up.  One time when my brother and I were kids I remember crying as my toes thawed out at the end of a fun day of skiing.  It was in Aspen, Colorado, and there were ice crystals in the air.  It looked like glitter as I looked out the car window enjoying the heater.  Even my painful toes didn't stop me from taking it in.  I still remember how beautiful it was.  When snowflakes drift down and land on your jacket, they truly are beautiful.  Only in the really cold, do they last very long once they land.  I'm so glad I had the opportunity to see snow on the many ski trips we took.  I gained a healthy respect for the cold too, and the powerful changes that come with winter.

These amazing macro photos of snowflakes will blow your mind.  These beautiful creations require very cold temps. In fact, the photographer has to work fast to capture them before they begin to melt.  For centuries, it's not been possible to see the detail.  How wonderful that now we can see the intricacies.  I was reminded of the passage in Job describing God's powerful hand in the weather and seasonal changes.

"God thunders with His voice wondrously, doing great things which we cannot comprehend.  For to the snow He says, "Fall on the earth," and to the downpour and the rain, "Be strong."  He seals the hand of every man, that all men may know His work." 

Ice crown by Alexey Kljatov

"Then the beast goes into its lair and remains in its den.  Out of the south comes the storm, and out of the north the cold.  From the breath of God ice is made, and the expanse of the waters is frozen, also with moisture He loads the thick clout; He disperses the cloud of his lightning."

Snowflake by Alexey Kljatov

"It changes direction, turning around by His guidance, that it may do whatever He commands it on the face of the inhabited earth.  Whether for correction, or for His world, or for lovingkindness, He causes it to happen." Job 37:5-13

Starlight by Alexey Kljatov

1977 Gary at June Mountain, California

As you can see...Gary's had a few encounters with the little flakes too. Most of them had melted into his mustache and we always laughed at this picture. Though we'll never be snow-skiing again, we're still enjoying some big snowflakes that decorate our room in this crazy warm weather.  I had no idea that one day I'd be using an old college art project as a memory aid for my husband, whom I hadn't even met when I created it.  I hang these seasonal banners in our room to remind Gary what time of year it is so the "Winter" sign is temporarily pinned on. 

I never noticed it before today, but I think I must have been influenced by the blue snowflakes on the ski lodge as a little girl! 

1972 College design project - 2 dimensional design for use in my home, constructed. This winter banner is one of four.

Hand appliqued felt snowflakes. 

Please know that Gary and I hope you have a wonderful Christmas celebrating the birth of our savior, Jesus Christ.

From our house to yours, we send our love.

Tidbits & Treasures

"Tidbits & Treasures" are some things I just really, really want you to know about! It's a collection of fun, important, newsy, stuff that don't justify an entire blog, but I want to pass on to you this Thanksgiving.  Enjoy! 

Gary shares a "tidbit" of his own.

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I LOVE THIS! 

"Yet I am continually with you; You have taken hold of my right hand.  With Your counsel You will guide me, and afterward receive me to glory.  Psalm 73:23-24 

I've had this verse on a sticky note in my daily calendar for a week.  I've been thinking how  God is with Gary constantly.  He is holding his hand.  He has been caring for him all along, and when the time comes, God will bring Gary to his side in Heaven.  Comforting to think about.

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Thanksgiving Proclamations

On October 3, 1789, President George Washington, Proclaimed Nov. 26th as the National Day of Thanksgiving. 

"Now therefore I do recommend and assign Thursday the 26th day of November next to be devoted by the People of these States to the service of that great and glorious Being, who is the beneficent Author of all the good that was, that is, or that will be. That we may then all unite in rendering unto him our sincere and humble thanks..."

On October 3, 1863, Abraham Lincoln made his own Thanksgiving Proclamation. Here are the last few sentences...

"I do therefore invite my fellow citizens in every part of the United States, and also those who are at sea and those who are sojourning in foreign lands, to set apart and observe the last Thursday of November next, as a day of Thanksgiving and Praise to our beneficent Father who dwelleth in the Heavens. And I recommend to them that while offering up the ascriptions justly due to Him for such singular deliverances and blessings, they do also, with humble penitence for our national perverseness and disobedience, commend to His tender care all those who have become widows, orphans, mourners or sufferers in the lamentable civil strife in which we are unavoidably engaged, and fervently implore the interposition of the Almighty Hand to heal the wounds of the nation and to restore it as soon as may be consistent with the Divine purposes to the full enjoyment of peace, harmony, tranquillity and Union."  Click HERE to read the whole thing. 

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Our Thanksgiving Day 

We used to have big groups in our home every year.  Everyone brought part of the meal, Sarah and April made the decorations, and helped with getting the table ready.  I made the Cranberry Velvet, and Martha Stewart's Turkey and Dressing.  Gary busied himself with getting the carving knife sharpened, or bringing in the banquet table from the garage, and gathering the chairs from the different rooms.  My favorite part of the day was when he began the meal by thanking God for His many blessings and kindnesses to us.  I am not hosting this year.  Gary's needs have become too great, but I did make the Cranberry sauce, and will bring the mashed sweet potatoes to our daughter's home.  I'm looking forward to the whole thing.  May your Thanksgiving Day be sweet and filled with joy and gratefulness to God. 

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Christmas Shopping Ideas

Priced at $10-$15 our greeting card sets make a thoughtful gift or stocking stuffer.

Our Secret Garden Fine Art Prints are $45.

Personalized Monograms and Architectural Portraits can be ordered for $150.

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Been thinking a lot about lettering lately.  I have found that I really love looking at fonts when choosing just the right one for each of my greeting cards.   I'm even reading a book about how we can write better.  When I select the painting for the card, that is only the beginning.  The greeting must be supported by the font.

Birthday cards Click HERE

Serious themes are not going to be taken seriously if they are communicated with a whimsical font.  Celebrations should be written in a joyful way!

Even if you don't care much about typography, you may enjoy this clever 5 minute video about the history of Typography.  I know, sounds boring, but I think you'll find it fun!  Enjoy!

What's in your mailbox?

You're walking back from the mailbox with a handful of mail, and you're flipping through the pieces as you go.  The first group you blow right past is the junk mail addressed to  "Occupant" or "Our Good Neighbor".  Others mildly capture your interest.  These envelopes reveal your name through the cellophane window.  You know the ones....the bills.  On a typical day, you say, "...All BILLS and JUNK MAIL!"  But once in a while, something else is in that stack of envelopes.  You pick it out and it goes to the top of the stack.  Depending on who it's from, you set it aside to open with a good cup of tea or coffee, or you  rip it open immediately.  You know what I mean.  It's a hand-written note hiding within that pile of utilitarian mail.  Someone cared enough to sit down with pen and paper, and thoughtfully sent you a message.

Thanksgiving Greeting Cards - 4 Card Set  Click HERE for details

Whether you think about it or not, your hands are feeling the paper, noticing the design, and the handwriting.  It doesn't matter if it's a birthday card, or a thank you note, it conveys the personality of the sender.  It means more because someone decided to send you a personal greeting that wasn't electronic.  They wanted you to have a little piece of themselves.  It took effort to get the stamp, look up your address, and think about what to say, without the ability to backspace.

Sometimes we can't find the words we are looking for, but if encouragement, prayer, or thanks are needed, I turn to the Bible.  During the last several years I have been journaling about the impact of particular verses in my life.  I am thrilled to share them with you along with my artwork in the form of greeting cards.  Some include these verses, and some are blank for your own thoughts.  Each card is unique and expresses my heart.

Autumn Encouragement Cards - 8 Card Set  Click HERE for details

Several Greeting Card sets are available today for ordering and more are on the way.  Click HERE to view /purchase them in my gallery.  

You have something to say.

Make it last.

Say it with a pen.

"And don't worry about your handwriting being bad.

You just happen to have your very own FONT!" 

"Fellowship of Suffering"

Like cold water to a weary soul, so is good news from a distant land.  Proverbs 25:25

I am suffering.  It's not always intense.  It's not all the time, but I get hit with waves of sorrow as I watch the deterioration of my dear Gary's mind and body.  What encourages me most?  The comfort that comes from others.  In fact, we (my family and I), have experienced many varied blessings that ultimately come from God's care.  Reminders of what is true about God and His promises to His children, beautiful music that lifts my heart from despair to joy, opportunities to serve and enjoy this big beautiful world are everywhere. 

In 2 Corinthians 1, Paul says,"  ...the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction SO THAT we will be able to comfort those who are in ANY affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God."  Many folks who have served us, have never experienced anything like our trial, so don't ever think that just because you've never suffered from dementia in a loved one, that you can't offer encouragement to someone who's suffering.  According to Paul, ANY suffering qualifies ANY believer to offer refreshment in Jesus' name. 

But THIS post is about those who are going through similar difficulties.  I want to tell you about three friends.  God has been blessing me in a way I didn't expect by including me in a very special "fellowship."  Let me tell you how it started.   A bunch of us girls met in a Baptist church over 50 years ago.  In Junior High we spent many hours at slumber parties, pool parties, and summer camps together.  Oh the Laughter!!!  Over the years we drifted apart, 20 years, 30 years and 40 years for one of them, since we've been in communication.  Now we live too far away to spend time together but thanks to Facebook and email, we are back together.  We are reunited in a sort of "Fellowship of Suffering."  One of these friends is a recent widow.  Another has a husband who is loosing a battle with cancer.  Another has a husband recently diagnosed with cancer. 

We're all here in this camp photo.  I'm in the middle row, 2nd from the left with my white "babushka" scarf.  My 3 friends can remain anonymous. 

Who would have thought that after so long, we'd be regularly communicating.  These women know Christ.  They are ministering to me by reminding me of His great love and care.  They are not just "playing church" as I suspect many of us were as young teens, but have matured in to women of God.  We center our conversations around the relationships we have with our Savior.  They each know the loss, pending loss or potential loss of a husband, like me.  "Like me."...  There is a bond between us.  It is special.  It comes as a surprise to me, that God would bring back these friends from so long ago to be comforters in my life. 

Camp Rancho at Forest Home. 1966

None of us are comfortable with the idea of death taking our dear husbands.  Death is not just "a part of life."  Whether it threatens and goes away, gradually overcomes, or suddenly crashes in on our lives, we resist it.  Life is a precious gift.  Because God saved us, we are able to meet these kinds of challenges with inner peace and joy.  None of us would say we have that kind of strength in ourselves apart from Christ living in us.  A quick request for prayer via a Facebook chat, or an email to a friend can lead to the sweetest dialog with true encouragement because we remind each other that our good God is in control and we can trust Him.  Little explanation is needed with these 3 because they understand me in a unique way.

I am quite amazed at the surprises along the way as I "suffer."  One of the dearest is these ladies' ministry to me.   

"Strategery" Session

 "Many are the plans in a man's heart, but it is the Lord's purpose that prevails." Prov.19:21  

Recently Becky (our caregiver) and I wrote an article for the newsletter for our Alzheimer's ministry group at church.  We called it "Logistical Strategies."  It's about adapting to the changes in our loved one.  I'm happy to share the content here because there are many photos of what we are doing to make things easier.  If you are reading this because you know and love someone with dementia, I hope this is super helpful.  If you are reading this because you love Gary and I, thank you for caring.  L.P. 

Logistical Strategies

(from the Alzheimer's. Ministry Newsletter, Grace Community Church)

Changes ahead.  Seven years ago when Gary was diagnosed with A.D., I knew changes were coming.  I knew Gary would get worse, not better.  I knew I didn't want to embrace the unfamiliar.  Wise friends and loving family have advised me at every step of the way to face the facts, accept the inevitable and try to be "ahead of the game" with our preparations.  There have been scary moments, but always, I have found that God  is right there guiding us along, and a constant companion.  Most of the time, by grace, I am able to bask in the security of God's good providential care.  "I will never leave you or forsake you" He said.  "I will incline my ear to you, when you cry for help" and just like David, He has been listening to me and caring for Gary and I. 

Life has not been without it's "tumbles" and "messiness" at times, but overall, we have continued to "adjust" to the NEW and DIFFERENT, which has given comfort to Gary and peace to me.  Be kind to your Loved One by adjusting his/her environment to suit him/her, give the gift of time to your family and friends by simplifying your life, and save own back by making use of equipment and lifestyles that fit your new phase of life.  Everyone's needs are different of course, but now that Gary is in Advanced Stages, we've been through a lot and want this personal look to serve as a visual aid in your planning and strategizing for your loved ones. 

Becky's photos and comments give the care giver's perspective so together we'd like to encourage you.

The biggest change was a new home.  One that I could manage.  I wish we'd moved sooner.  Generally, I'd say make adaptations sooner rather than later so your L.O. (Loved One) can adjust before the disease progresses.  Try to stay ahead of the needs. 

So, to you, friend, I say..."Welcome.  Come on in and I'll show you around our house!"

(Use the arrows at the edge of each photo below to advance to the next one.) 

Ramps for wheelchair or walking. (Note portable ramp at side. Handy when visiting others.)

Ramps come in all shapes, sizes and materials and some are removeable.

Comfy, washable chair reclines...

...OR rises at the touch of a button to save the care giver's back.

Pleasant Surroundings with space for mobility equipment, a comfortable chair for me.

Eye catching images geared for Gary's interest are included in the wall décor. Door to bathroom was enlarged for ease of access.

Gary's view...Favorite TV viewing includes video slideshows with scripture, scenery, and hymns, a gift from the grandchildren.

Seasonal art to remind Gary of the time of year.

Laminate floor facilitates easy rolling of the Hoyer Lift, used to lift Gary into bed if needed.

Here's how it works.

Wondering where to start?  A wise person said...Ask yourself..."WHAT'S THE WORSE THAT COULD HAPPEN?"      

"This question will force you to look at the worst case scenario then work back from there.  It's forcing yourself to look at what could go wrong and finding strategies to do your best to prevent this."  

Take for example the tendency for falling which is usually the first symptom that something is amiss.  What is the worst that could happen?  A fall and hip fracture.  What room in the house is this most likely to happen?  Bathroom perhaps.  So we take steps to get rid of the throw rugs, we install bars etc.  You get the picture.   Whatever solutions you come up with, you've faced the worst possibility and now have ideas to stop or delay it becoming an eventuality.                 

Grab bars, shower wand and shower chair, keep loved ones safe and secure.

With my twin bed snuggled up against Gary's hospital bed, and with matching bedspreads, beds are disguised as a King. There are railings on each side of Gary's bed for when he is alone.

When Gary is in bed, I can work on my laptop, talk on the phone and reach over and touch him. I hope my voice and activity is somehow comforting to him. Being near Gary is comforting to me.

Some of the health aids I found online, some through friends, or home improvement stores.  Many Senior Centers have volunteers who will install handrails, and ramps. Medicare provided some of the equipment too.  You don't have to make all the changes at once.  Prioritize the things you need and get the most pressing needs covered first.  When you must adapt things in your home, embrace the idea.  Look at change as an adventure.  Have a discovery attitude. 

"If you are a saint, God will continually upset your programme,

and if you are wedded to your programme,

you will become the most obnoxious creature under heaven,

an irritable saint." 

Oswald Chambers, Running Today's Race.

Photos by Becky S. and Article by Becky and Laurie

Watercolor Journal - Cherished Forever

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"It will be cherished forever." That's what P.G. said when she received the painting last week.  It was a gift from her husband.  Hummingbirds and African Violets hold a special place in his wife's heart.  Why?  Her mother had loved them first.   Her mom is no longer here, but now, P.G. waters the same plants and treasures the glass hummingbird “sun-catchers” that hung in her mother’s window.  It was my privilege to create this painting, a gift from her thoughtful husband, to keep the memory of her mother fresh.

"Let me tell you it is the most beautiful gift I have ever received. It is a beautiful compilation of so many meaningful elements. Thank you for making (my husband's) vision a reality. it will be cherished forever!!!  It is truly a magnificent piece of art! I only wish my Mom was here to see it...she would love it as well."  P.G.

Thoughts on my own treasured mom...

This project gave me pause to think about my own mother.  In the winter of her life she is as beautiful as ever.  Thankfully, my mom lives within walking distance of me, so I can still enjoy her smile, and kind heart.

My mom and I getting ready for Easter.

Let me conjure up some memories of my own.  My mother delights in so many things.  She’ll try anything and is the quintessential “good sport.”  She’d jump on our trampoline, teach the granddaughters how to cha-cha, and reads Uncle Remus with the perfect accent.  Her mobility may be limited, but her mind is active, serving my father, reading the Bible, and keeping track of her great-grandchildren’s birthdays.  She always wore a brightly colored hat for road-trip photos because it was “photogenic.”  When she puts scotch tape on a Christmas gift, the ends are folded down on themselves so there are “pull-tabs” to make it easy to open.  She made all our Halloween costumes from scratch, every year, and at age 90, just made herself a new apron with bluebird fabric to remind herself of the bluebirds that used to nest in their eaves.  I already think of my parents whenever I see a bluebird.

The real gift here, is not the painting, but the cherished mom, who inspired it and like my client, my mental treasuries are full, and I love my mom.

Watercolor Journal - Cute

Every minute I've spent with this little guy to capture his personality, aka cuteness, has been really fun.  I've been wondering what makes a baby owl SO cute?  I think it has to do with his big head and 'starey' eyes.  And fluff.  Lots of baby animals have similar "cuteness" and elicit a spontaneous awwww!"  But why do we humans love looking at baby animals so much?   Guess what?  The day after I finished this painting, I read that recently a study at Hiroshima University, found that looking at pictures of baby animals, increase productivity, focus and fine motor skills in adult employees.  One reason may be that watching babies of any kind encourage the caring/nurturing part of us, that requires  attentiveness to the needs of the little one.  If you wonder how researchers would come up with this type of a study, Japan is 'crazy' for "Kawaii" (Japanese for 'cute').  Remember Hello Kitty?  Pokemon?  Anime? 

Hello Kitty

Christmas morning 1977.  Sarah and Sniffy. 

So, I decided to display the little "owlet" painting near Gary for the time-being.  I'm hoping his focus, and concentration, can be enhanced by this small, feathered tutor.  In any case, this baby owl, will certainly exude cuteness, and that has to benefit Gary's sense of well-being.  It does mine, every time I walk by.  When Sarah was two years old Gary bought her a little bunny.  She named it "Sniffy" because...wait for it... it sniffed.  As you can see by the photo, it gave her a sense of well-being too. 

"Goodbye Jason"

Gary and Jason on our daily walk around the neighborhood. 

I said 'Good-bye' to Jason this morning.  I can't imagine the last six months without him in our home.  He came to us at the perfect time, and gave freely of himself to serve us in more ways than I can count.  He is truly a gift from God and will forever be in our hearts.

As he travels, and always, my prayer for him is a blessing from Numbers 6, 

"May the Lord bless him and keep him.  May the Lord make His face to shine on him, and be gracious to him.  The Lord lift up his countenance on him, and give him peace." Numbers 6

I'm looking forward to seeing how the Lord will use him as he spends his life serving others in the name of Jesus.   

Gary's schedule is done, the care giving is lined up, and our plan is finished.  Our needs will likely change again, but for now, we're all set.   Again, the Lord has provided just what we need at just the right time.

For the story on how Jason came to us click HERE

For the last blog post about 'transitions' click HERE 

"I gotta get me some SKILLS!"

Two big changes are on the horizon.  I am not looking forward to either of them.  One is going to happen quickly, like flipping a light switch off, and the other one is more like a dimmer switch, being turned up and down erratically.  The instant change is going to happen in about 2 weeks.  The other one has already begun. 

Change Number One:

Our dear Jason, who has served us so unselfishly for 6 months, is going to be leaving.  His work needs are changing, precipitating his move back to Florida.  I can't say enough about his kindness to us by doing all the "heavy lifting" for me.  His jokes with Gary, his professional care for him, and the laughter will be missed.  He has become like one of our own. If you haven't read the amazing story of how he came to us, Click HERE. 

Becky and Karl, on one of their many walks with Gary. 

Change Number Two:

Gary's needs are changing too.  Alzheimer's Disease is different with everyone.  With Gary there have been some plateaus, but mostly it's been a steady progression of decline.  As the years have rolled on, (7+ now) the progression seems faster.  It has been a month since Gary has said anything to me.  He rarely looks at me.  He is only awake about 6 hours a day.  But the worse thing seems to be his balance, and maneuverability.  The mobility issues are having the biggest effect on me.  A person alone has a very hard time walking Gary from one room to another or helping him get seated.  Standing him up is lifting dead weight.  Once on his feet, he can go for a walk with support on each side, but inside the house, it's all scissor steps, distractions and confusion so a single person has a difficult time walking him. 

So Now What?

The caregiving is going to look different and the team is going to be bigger.  ("We're gonna need a bigger boat" JAWS)  I'm using the last couple of weeks with Jason here, to try several things.  He is helping me with the transitions.  We have new equipment, and procedures that I must get proficient with.  We are trying new schedules, by condensing activities.  I am trying new "locations" for Gary during the day.  Ironically, by trying out new methods, I'm getting sore muscles, or feeling overwhelmed because of all the wasted motions, or wrong way to do things.  I'm learning though,  by tweaking HOW I do things, and in what order I do them, it's getting easier every day.

Figuring Things Out

I thought some may be interested in the process so I'll try to share some of it with you.  If you have a loved one in an advanced stage of dementia, you may find it helpful, and if not, please pray for Gary and me.  I am in great need of wisdom and grace.

Rolled up blanket to simulate torso.  It's actually very comfortable and I think Gary enjoys riding in the "hammock." 

This is a Hoyer Lift.  It's the first one I've ever seen.  If I can get proficient using it, work out the logistics of where to keep it, how to move it around, and how to place Gary in just the right place on the "hammock", then I (or any caregiver) can use it to get Gary into and out of bed, and into a wheelchair.  Without it, you need two people.  (Tried it again this morning and it was much easier than last time!)

I still have a twin bed pushed up next to his.  I'm resisting moving them apart.  Love being near. 

Gary's hospital bed is on the right.  He has actually had it for awhile, but now it's getting more use.  Giving him dinner in bed eliminates the long difficult walk to bed at night when he's sleepy.   I am learning to use the controls and the side rails to my advantage, to protect my back, and Gary as I help him with various things. 

In pulling up a movie for this photo I came across Driving Miss Daisy.  Well, as usual, it sucked me in and I've had it on in the background all morning, and yes, it still makes me cry at the end.  Especially now.

This is a bed table.  We watch a movie, or live streaming with our dinner on the laptop.  Well, Gary listens, and I watch while I feed him, because he has his eyes shut during meals.  Don't know why, but I suspect it's too many senses going at once and he can shut out sight easily.  After he eats, he usually watches with me for about 30 minutes.  I treasure this time with him because we are doing something "together."  After I brush his teeth, I sit next to him on my bed, and work on a project or read till he falls asleep at about 7:00.

This is my pile of notes.  After a family conference a few weeks ago, we decided that I need to tackle 3 areas.   

1. Gary's well being.  What must be done, to promote his...

PHYSICAL comfort and safety

MENTAL stimulation, security, and relationships

SPIRITUAL life

2. Laurie's well being.   What must be done, to promote my...

PHYSICAL health

MENTAL stimulation, security, and relationships

SPIRITUAL LIFE

3. The finances needed to pull this off!  The Guys (sons-in-law), will help me figure this part out.

Next, I put an activity with each section.  For instance, for Gary's Physical comfort he does best with at least one 15 minute walk each morning, certain foods, and lots of naps.  To keep him safe, he can't be left unmonitored ever, and must always have 2 helpers for walking, etc. 

Time and schedules come next.  Once all our needs were written out, I needed to lay out a weekly schedule fitting caregiving into time slots. I've been brainstorming with our existing caregivers, about the changes I'm trying before I settle on a schedule.  My goal is to have the schedule figured out in a few days, so I can start lining up more help.

This is only a fraction of them. 

Getting there...but still using pencil so I can erase. 

All For Good

We recently had a short visit from our daughter, April.  It was a precious time.   I don't know what I'd do without the help and encouragement of our family.  I am not in this alone.  I am confident that ALL these changes will work out for good for us.  I'm reading a great book on Romans 8:28 and plan to write a review for my Blog soon.  Being in the hands of God is a good place to be.  I'm just doing the next thing, which right now is to get Gary moved to the bedroom.  "Hoyer Lift, I will take charge of you!"

A couple times during April's visit we could tell Gary recognized her. 

There was a special visit with my parents who live across the street.  Here's 3 of the generations together.  My dad's 95!

I had a wonderful time on my birthday weekend with Sarah and April at the beach for a couple of days. 

Watercolor Journal - Lil' Bandit

Furry, cute, and oh so sneaky!  A favorite lil' critter of mine is the raccoon.  I know they can be mean and you don't want to get cornered in a small space with them, but the little mask, striped tail, and the fact that they 'wash' their food makes them irresistible to my imagination. 

Everyone has a good raccoon story.  My favorite took place at our old house.  With the Koi pond, and it's shallow rock waterfall, raccoons and possums were around from time to time..  A  place to wash food, an occasional fish food pellet, ornamental grass which hosted grubs, and worms, to say nothing of the tempting fish.  Gary had built the patio over hanging the pond a little, so that the fish could hide from predators and most of the fish were too big for a raccoon to pull out, but all the other goodies in our garden were in abundant supply.  Anyway, we knew they were there, our dogs kept us informed of that in the night.  Being nocturnal, I always wondered where they went in the daytime.  Our tree trimmer found out one day, when pruning a palm tree.  Up on a very tall ladder, and deep into the thickest part of the palm fronds, he came face to face with a big raccoon.  It was right next to our pond, and had made a nest there.  Both of them were surprised, and Mike took a quick exit.  When he went back up, Mr. Raccoon was gone.

Evidence

When we take Gary for a walk every morning, guess what we see?  Evidence!  We've got raccoons here too, and I love knowing that.  I saw muddy prints in our little garden right outside our living room window, so I know they are close by.  We criss-cross their paths as we walk through our little neighborhood.  I wonder where they go in the daytime?  What tree, or bush do they live in?  Are they curious about us too?  Seeing these little prints day after day, reminded me of our little ecosystem by the pond, and inspired me to paint Lil' Bandit.  Love the daily "brush" with critters, and capturing them with MY brush!

Makes me feel like we're back in Sunland!​

Do YOU have a good raccoon story of your own to share?   

Our Little "Band of Brothers"

I had the most wonderful morning.  Once a month, we (Gary and I and our local family) are able to attend the Alzheimer's/Dementia Support Ministry at our church.  Things are getting pretty hard with Gary lately so today especially,  I welcomed the time with those who are in the same situation. 

​For us, it starts the night before.  Gary must get shaved, the wheelchair has to be loaded into the car (by someone strong, since it's a heavy one), and I must think through the morning schedule.  Getting Gary into the car can be challenging. (50% of the time he will not understand about stepping into the car and it can take 5-10 minutes getting him "folded in" to the passenger seat.)  So, today our son-in-law, Ryan came to help get Gary into the car. 

​We have a 20 minute drive which Gary thoroughly enjoys and once at church, we are greeted at the car by helpers who help us by getting Gary out of the car, assembling the wheelchair and getting us settled inside. 

A light but healthy breakfast is served and boy does it taste good, because I didn't have to fix it!  It's one less thing to do during a busy morning.  The coffee is SO GOOD!  Some of the ladies and family members provide the breakfast.  The centerpiece always has an encouraging verse or quote to remind all of us that we are in the good hands of God. 

Once we've had some munchies we divide into our Loved Ones and Caregivers groups.

The Loved Ones Group roughly follows this schedule.

• 9:00am-9:30am > Breakfast & Fellowship
• 9:30am-10:00am > Movie (usually about God's creation)
• 10:00am-10:30am > Go for a walk around campus
• 10:30am-11:00am > A time of worship led by different folks, either with piano, or guitar  (They emphasize the older hymns since these are deeper in the long term memories.) 
  

​We have very loving helpers who watch over my husband and the other gentleman, during the meetings.  They often bring their kids along who love to help out by getting another bagel or strawberries for someone.  They are learning to serve others.  Even though there are 15-20 caregivers/family who come there are only 2 loved ones who attend.  We are hoping for more to join them. 

Some Loved Ones sit in with the Caregiver group, so it's completely up to them, but for Gary, I didn't want the comments/conversation to be troubling to him, and he benefits greatly from a simpler program geared to his understanding and abilities.  ​

​Rick McLean, our pastor of special ministries, directs our Caregiver meeting.  Recently, he has been teaching a series on Biblical JOY.  What it is, what it isn't, what steals it, and how to maintain it in the midst of suffering.  Today he talked about

Romans 15:13.  "Now may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that you will abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit."

What a comfort that God intends for ALL Joy and Peace to be ours if we believe Him! 

Next, there is a time to meet any new people and hear their "story."  Most of these folks are rather new to the dementia experience and it's impact on a family, and so they can be discouraged, frightened, and sad.  Those of us who have been on the "road" for a while, have a chance to encourage them.  There can be quite a bit of dialog back and forth as we try to give practical and Spiritual encouragement to them.  Often there's phone numbers or emails exchanged for later. 

Original Painting for the Loved Ones group by Jini Keasling Illustrating Jeremiah 17:5-8 "For he will be like a tree firmly planted..."

The rest of us give updates on our loved ones, and share prayer requests.  Again, we are given such good advice and courage to move ahead.  It comes from the wisdom of experience, and the truth of God's word brought to bear on any situation.  This morning someone shared how amazing that a nephew had moved to town and was helping her with her father.  This was unexpected and is really helping the family dynamic.  Another woman shared how her brother with Alz, is continuing to drive even without a license.  Many were able to counsel her with both practical ideas, and the encouragement to keep a gentle spirit as she tries to help.  I KNOW that God is listening to all of them as they pray for me and I am so happy to pray for them too.  The meeting is finished up with prayer for the group by Pastor Rick.  ​Occasionally we have had special events, such as a Hospice representative explaining Advanced Directives, or an artist, illustrating a Bible verse for our Loved Ones.  We also send out a monthly newsletter with great Alzheimer's resources and testimonies.

Gary is getting to the point where it's hard to decide if I should keep bringing him.  Once it becomes uncomfortable for him, or too much work for me, I will have a caregiver come to the house so I can keep going.  For now, I'm so glad that he was pretty alert this morning, had a good breakfast, was able to watch the movie, go for a walk, and hear music which is telling of the greatness of his Savior.  I'm so happy that I got to go too.  

These dear friends, whom I am bonded to, in our mutual difficulties, understand in a special way. 

2 Corinthians ​1:3-4 says, "Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in ALL our affliction so that we will be able to comfort those who are in ANY affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God."

Special Worship music with the Loved Ones

​God comforts me.  Through others.  Through His word.  Through providence.  That gives me the ability to comfort others.  Others in ANY affliction.  You don't HAVE to have the SAME trial to encourage someone.  We live in a fallen world that is careening out of control.  There is sin, sickness and death everywhere.  As hard as people try to escape discomfort, it's a reality.  How kind of God to encourage me.  Did you know that comfort means encourage (to give courage)?   We don't rant and rave about our situation.  We do cry sometimes as we share how hard things are, but in our little group, we are all about giving and receiving courage. 

We Have A Winner

As promised in the last post, the contest ended today! 

At 6:00 pm our oldest grandson and oldest granddaughter,

took the stage as unbiased participants,

and assisted with finding the winner.

A name was drawn out of the jar! 

That name was YOURS, RUTH PATTERSON!  So, Ruth, please contact me HERE before next Saturday, May ​18th to claim your prize.  Let me know which Secret Garden print you would like me to send to you and where to send it, and I'll get it to you asap!  ​

The "Secret Garden" Collection

Four 8" X 10" fine art prints from my original watercolors

based on the book, by Francis Hodgson Burnett 

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"Thank You" to everyone...

for all your great ideas for future paintings.  I've written them down in my idea book.  ​It means so much to me that you would take the time to share them.  I hope you all have a wonderful Mother's Day tomorrow. 

Something Brand New & A Fine Art Giveaway

Behind the Wall

My friend in the Midwest shared some precious photos with me this week.  She kindly said I may share them with you.  On her porch, a little mommy robin has taken up residence in her flower pot.  ​Evidently she felt it was the perfect secret little place to build her nest.  It is sheltered.  It is warm.  It is safe.  It is home, for now.

I have always loved robins.  They're out and about every Spring and they live everywhere.  They ALWAYS remind me of the "cheeky little beggar" in "The Secret Garden" by Frances Hodgson Burnett.  He is the sassy little bird that is present in nearly every chapter.  He is the little orphan girl's very first friend.   He knows the secrets behind the wall, and he leads the way for her to a whole new world.  As the garden comes to life, so do the children who tend it.  This beloved children's classic, was a favorite of our family, and now our grandchildren are reading it too.  If you've never read it, even as an adult, I highly recommend it. 

Come on in!

The original 1911 cover.​

I would like to invite you inside my very own "Secret Garden."​  I am excited to open the door for you and show you what's been growing here.  I've been putting together a collection of paintings based on this book and getting the fine art prints ready to share.

The robin inspires me with his industrious little life.  Like most birds, robins are always busy, searching out nesting spots, or gathering twigs.  While they are taking care of their responsibilities, we reap the benefits.  What is more lovely than blue robin eggs tucked into a well built nest?  How about Robin's red feathers contrasted with green grass as he tugs on a worm?

My husband, Gary has early-onset Alzheimer's Disease.  Through watercolor painting, I have found a way to express my love for the beauty around me, bless my husband, and provide visual delights for you to enjoy. Thank you for your support which allows me to stay by Gary's side.  I would be so grateful if you tell your friends as well. 

The "Secret Garden" Collection

Four original watercolor paintings and fine art prints

based on the book, by Francis Hodgson Burnett  ​

​The First  Big News

Along with these original 8 X 10 framed paintings, I'm offering FINE ART PRINTS!  This has been in the works for some time, so I'm thrilled to tell you about it.  You can purchase them framed or unframed.  You can buy a painting, or a print, or a set and each image comes with a journal entry with my thoughts.  These paintings and prints are ready to order.  Clicking on any image will take you to the gallery page for more details.  Or click HERE

The Other Big News!

A Fine Art Print Giveaway from this collection!  ​Here's how it works... If you win the drawing you choose the 8 X 10 print of choice from this collection.

1. Leave a comment on this blog, (at the bottom of THIS page where it says COMMENTS) and tell me what subject you would like me to paint next.
   
2. The drawing is going to be held on ​Saturday, May 11, 2013 at 6:00 PM PST. 
3. I will post the winner's name on a new blog post that night.  The winner will have one week to contact me or I will draw a new name.  ​

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Like Mary in the story, I am grateful for the friends God has brought into my life.  Thank you for ​your interest, loyalty and love.  It's a joy to share my world with you.

​With Pleasure,

Laurie

Rummaging Around

Our garage only slightly messier than normal due to Gary's work truck being unloaded here prior to selling.

Gary's always liked digging around in things, hoping for a treasure.  He loved a good garage sale, or antique store, the messier the better, because "discovery" is half the fun. Perhaps that is why our garage always looked messy to me.  He had some "gems" hidden there, and he usually knew right where they were, and if not, had fun finding them again. 

Bin 13 X 9 X 4

​At this stage of Alzheimer's, I have found that Gary still enjoys the process of discovery.  I happened upon this by accident.  Gary has to have some kind of gadget, tool, fabric, or toy in his hands at all times.  In fact when we need him to let go, and hold our hand, it is nearly impossible to pry his fingers off of the object.  These items end up all over the house, and I began keeping them in bins.  I noticed that he liked looking in the bins and picking up things out of the bin, so I began setting the tub on his lap.  He really likes digging through and grabbing on to an item or two and then manipulating them.  He'll lace the cord around his hand, or another object, twist the pvc pipe fittings, or fold and refold the fabric.  The other day, I handed him his "duck-bill" pliers (his favorite hand tool), and he used them to pick things out of the box.  I have to keep my eye on him so he won't pinch himself with them, but this is entertaining, and work for him.  He is working with his hands, not producing a product as in the past, but he is working.  His work is to use his hands and solve small problems, like picking up something that catches his eye and then see how it feels; smooth, rough, cold, or pliable. 

PVC fittings and 6" sections of pipe, are inexpensive, and loads of fun to take apart. 

Here is an interesting article on rummaging, and how to adapt it for your loved one with dementia.  Click HERE to read it.  Women like digging around in a big purse for notepads, hankies, wallets, etc...Businessmen may like a briefcase filled with office type items, books, calendars, calculators, etc.  You get the idea.

At this point, Gary's bins have a mixture of tool-type items and toys as long as he shows an interest and it isn't dangerous.  We are all about "maximizing what remains" and rejoicing in the accomplishments, which are small in comparison to the past, but they are big for Gary right now.  I am so proud of him. 

Another one

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"HELP! Someone I Love Has Alzheimer's" Book Review

Gary reads the Christmas story to the family way back when we were just beginning the long, difficult process of finding out the cause of his cognitive impairment. 

Our journey began some time ago, but I, too, have cried for help way back at the beginning and many times since.  I have had moments of desperation, curiosity, and unstable footing.  For me, the panic comes when I'm facing changes in Gary, which require further adjustments, before I'm up-to-speed on our options, or confident in the best solution.  The curiosity comes when things are settled down, and I want to know what's likely to be out there in the future.  Of course I believe that God has the future planned, and I don't need to worry, but there is wisdom in being prepared. 

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My friend, Becky, found this little booklet in our church's book store. HELP!  Someone I Love Has Alzheimer's is a good resource for someone who is new to the adventure of Alzheimer's Disease.  It is written by Deborah Howard, RN, CHPN, and Judy Howe, BA, MA.  Both of these women have parents with this type of dementia. 

From the introduction:  ​

Only within the perspective of God's will can we begin to make sense of it.  Our perception improves when we view this disease through a spiritual lens.   No, dementia sufferers can't rise above dementia by the power of their wills.  No, there is nothing the family can do to "make it all go away."  But yes, we can find peace, joy, abiding love, and even humor along the journey."

In a personal account of her own family's story, Ms. Howard explains the physiological changes to expect in your loved one, including the warning signs, how it's diagnosed, the stages, and the treatments.  These subjects are handled briefly but with enough detail to gain a good basic understanding.    The next section is devoted to practical suggestions for caregivers.  Humility, patience and humor are the necessary qualities for good care giving.  Legal issues, handling medications, Dr. visits, nutrition, activities of daily living, exercise and the environment are discussed with some very helpful ideas.  For instance:

To maximize communication, reduce background noise when speaking to your loved one.​

Assist your loved one, if necessary, in organizing policies, accounts and assets.  Make sure that two people know where these records are stored.​

​You need to maintain a complete list of your loved one's medications, including over-the-counter drugs and supplements.  (For each medication you should note the following: Medication name, Dosage, Time to be given, Who prescribed it and why)

​The care giver has needs and these are addressed as well.  We must take care of ourselves, both physically and spiritually, or we'll have nothing left to give our loved ones. 

People generally want to help but don't know how.  Teach them by making specific requests.​

"Seek first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you."  Matthew 6:22​

​The final section (my favorite) is about trusting God in the midst of adversity.  "How can we reconcile the goodness of God with our pain and suffering?"   Basic truths about God's character and the purpose of adversity are the reason we can be thankful in the midst.  This booklet closes with several pages on the importance of having a saving relationship with Jesus Christ, which is the ultimate solution to the confusion, fears, and sorrows of very real pain and suffering.  

The cross of Christ is the ultimate solution to the problem of suffering and pain.  On that cross, Jesus not only conquered sin and death, but he also entered into human suffering and can, therefore sympathize with us in it.  God, in his infinite grace, did not leave Christ on the cross, but raised him from the dead to reign with him forever.  Christ's life, death, and resurrection secured the eternal salvation of all who will trust in him. 

3 months after Gary's diagnosis

​For less than $5.00, this 63 page booklet is a great way to introduce someone to Alzheimer's Disease from a Christian perspective.  I would love to have had this in my hands 6 years ago, when Gary was formally diagnosed with A.D., but it wasn't written yet.  I can already think of several friends I want to share it with right now.  I hope you find it useful as well. 

For more book reviews, click HERE.​

Julie's painting is finished!

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(​Continued from yesterday's blog.)

​This afternoon, I made the changes on my list.  I added a few more flowers both in the foreground and the background, to improve the composition.

Here's a close up.​

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​Now it is time to add the dark reds and greens.  By adding the shading, the flowers take shape and have depth.  It is shadows and highlights that give form.  I added the same reds and greens to the background flowers, but by "dabbing" them in, not "brushing" them in.  I want the background to look "fuzzy."  Finally I added all the details like the little sprigs, buds, and branches.  Feeling satisfied with these cherry blossoms, I smiled, and got ready for the final stage. 

Remember the font I chose in the planning stage?  In my Word program I formatted the letter for size.   

Position the Monogram, making sure the size is right for the space.

Sometimes it takes a few tries to get it right. 

Remember this step?  Use a pencil to darken the lines on the back side of the paper so it can be transferred to the painting.  ​I tape it to the window, to see the lines through the paper. 

I taped the "D" Monogram drawing on the painting and transferred the "D" to the painting by tracing the lines with my pencil.  Next, I carefully painted in the black.​ 

So, Julie D., here is your painting.  I hope you like your prize.  I really enjoyed painting it for you, and I hope it finds a nice place in your Craftsman style home.  To the rest of you who have been looking over my shoulder these last few days, I've loved sharing with you.  I wish I could paint one for each of you.  It was a fun contest, and a treat to paint these red blossoms.  Springtime blessings to everyone!

"Red Cherry Blossoms" Monogram with digital watermark added

Wet Brushes

Continuing with Julie's painting.  With the planning and drawing done, today we paint!  I like to paint with natural light.  Sometimes I hang a white sheet in front of the window to prevent shadows.  ​

Water...check

Brushes...check

Paints...check

Paper Towels...check

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​First I paint in the background very lightly, to make sure I like the layout.  I mix up a good red that I like, and then thin it with water for the light parts.  The "light red" is not really going to look "pink" when I'm done because with watercolors you must start out with the lightest parts of the painting first, and darker and darker colors as you go along, leaving exposed the light parts where you want them.  You'll see better as we go along.  Don't worry Julie, these blossoms ARE going to be red NOT pink. 

You can click on the photos to enlarge them and there's a small X in the upper right to click when you want to come back to this page.​

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Since I don't have a photographic memory, I rely on my reference photos.  When I took the photo, I held my purse behind the flowers so they would stand out clearly.   Never mind the colors in the photo.  I just needed it for the shapes.

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Next come the flowers in the foreground.  They will be the main event in this painting.  Because they are near, they will be distinct.  The ones in the distance will be lighter, and less sharp.  ​

The flowers are just painted simply at this point with no shading yet.  ​

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Darker red paint is added to the flower petals, to show their shape.  I am careful to leave the lighter parts alone and put the darker red only where the shading would be. In the distant flowers, I add some blotchy darker red because I will want them to look like a bunch of reddish blossoms, not cotton candy. 

​Periodically, I step back from the painting, and make sure I like the composition, and colors.

At this point, it was nearing time to make dinner, and Gary needed to get up from his nap.  (Today he was in the recliner, in the sunroom with me which I like.)   When I'm done for the day, I prop up the painting and every time I pass by, I see things I want to do tomorrow.  I keep a little paper near it, and jot things down to change or add.  A little more red here, an additional branch there, add some flowers over here, etc. 

I'm often asked how long it takes to create a painting.  This is a hard question to answer because of all the in between "thinking/looking" I do. 

I've rinsed out my brushes, and straightened up my desk, but ​I can't wait to get working again tomorrow.  Have a good night all.

"I am so excited, I'm shaking! I never win anything!!"

On March 23rd, Julie's name was drawn.​ "YAY!"

"Thank you SO very very much!!", continued Julie D., the winner of our contest!  Julie's original watercolor painting is underway and just as I promised, I'll be giving a step-by-step look at how I create a painting.  (To celebrate my brand new website, I recently hosted a drawing.  You can read about it HERE if you're curious.) 

So let's get started...

DIALOG WITH CLIENT:​

Julie let me know that she would like a Personalized Monogram watercolor with the letter "D" for her family name.  She loves cherry blossoms, and since she likes browns, whites, creams and red accents, she would like them to be red.  Her home is "Arts and Crafts" style.  We emailed back and forth a few times so that I could get a feel for her tastes. 

PLANNING:​

Every artist works differently, but I really get into the preparation.  My assignment was to find great cherry blossom pictures to use for reference, AND choose a great font for the "D."  ​

Grandmas and Granddaughters under a floral canopy

• FIRST, the pictures...Good timing, because last week, we had a "Girls' Day" at beautiful Descanso Gardens.​  (If you live nearby, you really MUST GO.  Spring has Sprung!)  While we were there I grabbed some close ups of the cherry trees to use for Julie's painting. 
  

​Ideas

• NEXT, I assemble my reference pictures, and Julie's ideas which will be used for layout, color, and theme.  I did a bit of research and found that there are no true red blossoms on cherry trees, BUT, that's were artistic license comes in.  From the pictures I saw, many trees appear red depending on the lighting, so no problem.  "Red cherry blossoms" it is! This pool of ideas will also answer the following very important question:  What exactly DOES a cherry blossom look like up close? 
  

Bungalow Heaven neighborhood

• ​LAST BUT NOT LEAST, find the perfect font for the monogram.  I want the monogram to reflect the "Arts and Crafts" style to be a good fit with her home.  A bit of background here, because I want to explain the font choice, AND just for fun, because we LOVE this architectural style. 
  

William Morris started the Arts and Crafts movement in England.  His philosophy opposed the mass production of the Industrial Revolution and emphasized the individual craftsman and artisan who work with their hands using local natural materials.  This followed the Victorian style with it's decorative embellishments and instead, emphasized simple, clean lines.   In America, the "Craftsman" style is very evident in the Bungalow.  In fact, nearby in Pasadena, you can explore the Bungalow Heaven neighborhood, to see the beautifully restored homes.  Gary and I have driven around here as well as toured the Gamble House also in Pasadena.

Our California Bungalow ​home

One of the reasons we like the Craftsman style so much is that we had our own bungalow for 36 years.  Here's what it looked like when we bought it. 

Example of Arts and Crafts lettering

What does architecture have to do with fonts? ​ We'll use the green sign at the right, to look at a typical Arts and Crafts font.  Notice how simple the letters are?  They almost look like the bungalow.  No swirls, serifs, extras, etc.  Just cool looking angular letters.  I love this font, but not sure this particular "D" will look good as a stand alone letter. 

​SO.....

Sample fonts

I try out various fonts from the Arts and Crafts period (1860-1910 England, and about 1930 in America) to choose a "D" that will work. 

You can see the contrast, from the Victorian era before, and the Art Nouveau and Deco, which came after.   These are just a few that I looked at.  Many more styles were around between 1860 and 1930, but ​the one highlighted in blue works best for our painting. The "D" has a simple, slightly triangular shape, but a bit of style too.

LAYOUT:​

It starts with a very simple line drawing.  Just the shapes to establish the composition.

This is my very 'old school' method of transferring the layout to watercolor paper.  Tape drawing to ​window, with drawing facing away.  Shade with side of pencil the lines that show through the paper.  (Hint: This will not work at night.)

Tape the drawing to the watercolor paper (or block) with the drawing side up.  Trace the lines of the original drawing onto the watercolor paper.  This keeps me from having to do all my sketchy work on the watercolor paper.  I don't want to be erasing on it, and redoing much, because I don't want to damage the surface before painting.  

Using some of my photos, I lightly draw in some of the details directly onto the watercolor paper.  These photos are being used for shape and form, rather than color.  These flowers are pink, but Julie's will be red.​

​I'll draw in the D later after the cherry blossoms are done.

 Now we're ready to start.  Looking forward to getting my paintbrush wet!  That's next so stay tuned.

​If at any point along the way you'd like to ask a question about the process, please leave a comment.  I'd love to hear from you. ​